Break ups are hard. It can make the strongest of people miserable.
Do it right – you and your partner going through a break up will enjoy peace and freedom afterwards. Do it wrong – both of you will become sworn enemies and fight yourselves to the death…
Why you want to end the relationship doesn’t really as much as how you choose to end it.
After you’ve explored the ways to manage conflict, yet your relationship keeps struggling. Maybe you need to end it after all.
Ending a relationship is an art and science. Learning the art takes years of navigating breakups; mastering the science is pretty easy. You just need to follow any of the 8 relationship breakup strategies on this post.
Before we look at these 8 relationship breakup strategies, let me walk you through why and when you may need to break up…
Imagine it’s 2 a.m. and you are lying in bed with your girlfriend of 5 years.
You look her over and sigh. Deeply and sadly.
She still has all the physical features that lured you to ask her out. And start a relationship that glowed with passion.
But in the past few weeks, you guys have slowly drifted apart.
Conversations now end in shouting arguments. Time spent together has lost that spark and magic: an hour with her seems like a century.
When you stare into her eyes, there’s this emptiness in there you just can’t put in words.
The little things you looked over as nothing now makes your blood hot…
The loud snores at night. The consistent chattering on phone with friends. The zero interest in football and politics.
You just can’t keep on. Someone operating at your wavelength is what you need right now!
So, what break up strategies can you use to break free?
8 Relationship Breakup Strategies
Ghosting is a modern relationship break up strategy. Basically, you block your partner’s number online (Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter, Instagram). She can also not call or reach you via SMS.
You do all of this without explaining to her why you’re ending the relationship.
Most times people chose ghosting as a way to break up relationships when they can’t stand the emotional drama from looking their partner in the eye and ending it.
Withdrawal relationship break up strategy means slowly drifting away from your partner.
You are there but you try to avoid any form of intimacy and communication. The goal is to have what you share with other person die slowly until it’s over.
In a withdrawal, you hide under any pretense (I’m busy at work, for example) to avoid seeing your partner ever so often.
3) Open Confrontation
Open confrontation relationship break up strategy involves you sitting with your partner and telling her why you need to end the relationship.
This strategy comes with lots of drama. You need to have the mental stamina to see this through to the end. Most people end up giving in and continuing the relationship.
Use this strategy when you know you have the courage to see it through.
Manipulation strategy involves getting someone to help you facilitate the break up.
So, manipulation strategy could involve getting another girl to act as your new girlfriend. Once your partner sees this new girl, she will then angrily break up the relationship.
This strategy is quite popular in Nigeria today.
5) Cost Escalation
Cost escalation strategy is a drama-filled strategy.
When using this strategy, you make your partner’s life a living hell. Nothing they do pleases you. Looking for opportunities to nag or start tense arguments becomes your way of life.
As the relationship takes a toll on your partner’s mental health, she may decide to go her way and let you be.
De-escalation relationship break up strategy involves you gradually breaking up the relationship.
Instead of breaking up immediately, you take it step by step. If she’s a live-in partner, you might ask her to go rent a place and give you some space while you come to visit her from time to time. Then after a while you cut down the number of days you go to see her…
7) Distant Communication
This strategy involves using technologically-mediated tools to break up relationships.
You could, for example, call her over the phone. Or do a Whatsapp video call with her and then tell her that it is over.
This strategy is also quite popular in Nigeria.
8) Self Blame
Self blame break up strategy involves you showing deep concern for your partner’s well being after the break up.
You accept that you’re the cause of the break up and beg her to go find someone that will give her peace.
These 8 strategies can help you navigate your relationship break up without hassles.
Choose the right strategy and do a proper break up.
Don’t bungle it if you want peace after a break up.